A Present for My Future Wife

Not a letter. Not a song. I present myself.

In all the gracious lands of thought, there is some space left for me to ponder upon the subject of marriage. And Oh! I feel jaded having to nurse the thoughts of marriage at my very tender and immature age and stage respectively.

However, come to levels with my reasoning. A question is ask: Is marriage not a matter what consideration? I feel so mature in heart that I am capable of handling the thoughts of marriage. I even have a present for my future wife.

I believe, marriage is not always about love, but it would seem proper if marriage is centered around love; centered around two loving mature adults who have come to reasoning to spend the rest of their lives together. Marriage would be much more meaningful in the long-run when there is a loving spouse to long for.

Well, like I said - I have a present for my future wife. I would want to love her so much and cherish the moments we spend together. I would want us to share our thoughts without holding back. I would want us to live happily and wanting to renew our love every morning.

Yes! I am not mature or ripe enough to think, let alone talk of marriage. However it is a matter I envision as inevitable if my Lord Jesus Christ tarries in His coming. It is my future and I plan towards it.

'Present' they say it is, because time spent in the present is all we can give in any future - be it a second later or centuries after. What can only matter in the future is what we do at present. We work today because we believe our work in the present will present us a reward/rewards in the future. I, in particular take actions in the present having my future in view - hopeful.

Over time, I have had to make decisions for the sake of my future, for the sake of the future I envision with my future wife (whom I have profiled as a paragon of virtue). I am taking steps to ensure the bright life with my future wife does not go dim. I make decisions - some difficult, pleasant, reckless, stressful, unsure… just so that my wife may find satisfaction in my perfect man. The end of course will justify the means.

Let me continue to remind you dear reader that I am young, but quite passionate for a bright future. I might be naïve (which I doubt), but not a fool that makes up fantasies and never works towards them.

I keep myself organised each day. I keep myself clean. I imbibe a habit of cleanliness. I try to be orderly in many ways that I can. I try to be respectful in many ways that I can. I try to be humble, patient, caring to people as much as I can. I make promises and try to keep my word. All of these not for my sakes alone, but also for my future wife that our marriage may hold virtues worth the love. So that we don't end up as immature younglings filled with infatuations that will wear off after a while.

I try to sharpen my mind, my emotions, my social skills. I work on my spiritual growth that I may find reason to serve God with my wife each passing day. I try to make myself relevant and valuable in the society that my wife may be proud of me, respect me and support me, just as I will do to her.

I socialise with people, catch cruise and find reasons to laugh so that there will be no boring moment shared together. I make myself more useful in household duties so that no one spouse is overly stressed. I even cook the best meals that will spread out an aroma of love in the home that my wife may have reason to love me more.

Look at me, all skinny. Do you think I eat healthy food just for myself? As far as I am concerned, I am healthy enough. Do you think I would subject myself to rigours of workouts just for my pride? Of course not. I have to be that apple of the eyes of my dearest; Her knight in shining armour; Prince charming; her powerful king. I will not just be an embodiment of virtue, but also admirable and desirable.

Oh well, this may be a long one. However, it is a rather small present than what my wife will eventually receive if in any case Christ tarries in His coming.

God helps me. God guides me. God directs me. God protects me. I work to be a perfect gentleman for my perfect lady. So that in the end I am not just an empty vessel, but a vessel unto honour to God and to my wife.

I am young, but will no longer be. This marriage may not even happen within a decade. However I have put myself up for daily tasking, accomplishments, improvements and more tasking.

The storms may come. It may not be all pleasant, but I'd be fulfilled to know that we will know our God, and we will have ourselves to encourage each other. Marriage is not always a bed of roses (so I hear). We may find ourselves on a bed of stones at some point. Marriage may not be a smooth sea to sail, but I believe I have to be perfect for my bride. In the end I be a man of valour, that I may protect, value, respect, honour, love, and always be by my wife daily - in person and spiritually.

This priceless present comes at a price which I pay at present. I burn so much to present her this present, while I pray they never go down in ashes. I continue to work to be the perfect man for my future wife.